I guess I look at it the other way. Why does someone need to know so badly, and why does it matter?
Some people guard their privacy a lot more than others - and you never know what their reasons may be. Besides which, people reveal a lot more than they realize when they reveal a collection of seemingly innocuous facts. Given enough random, unrelated anonymous facts about someone, you'd be surprised how easy it can be to pierce that anonymity.
...and she may have found it equally ridiculous that you thought about it so much and that it mattered even in the slightest to you (:
As to our friend years ago, I can tell you, we all were a real close knit group
. If you only knew her like we did you'd know we weren't being overly preoccupied about it & nosey, really, as we all knew tons about each other (that's all I'll tell you, ha). Again, just like the imaginary dinner party guests would probably not push if someone held back, they'd just give each other the eyes saying like "Drop it, don't go there, we're not asking for a dossier from this dude, just a general description of himself, his evasiveness is just weird. Let it go".
As for the summation of innocuous facts, we all find that even the most guarded
of members on here present us with many facts about themselves. A new member might say that he's looking for a good mechanic by him or he wants to sell his bike or even ride with others. Then the first response by one of us usually is "Where? You don't have a profile location filled out so how do we know what to answer you?" To which he usually answers "Oh, my bad, I'm in Omaha, NE (or wherever)". Sound familiar? Such a person probably could have saved a step by just filling that out in the first place. Even if he started out wanting to be guarded, the nature of seeking help on here oftentimes will eventually come to work against such a principle. Why dig in real hard about it. Almost always it will in time be given up, especially when they come asking for help
. And many just give up their age because they think our age polls are cool and want to be a part of it, too. Not to mention its very likely that by far the vast majority who don't fill out their profile are not against doing so on principle, they just need a friendly reminder
to do so because it was just simply never brought out in the sign up process. For the tiny minority standing on a privacy principle, I maintain it shouldn't be mandatory, but encouragement still needs to be there just for the majority for whom it was a simple oversight. Really most just are so eager to post about a question or their excitement about riding again, that they just didn't pay attention to the profile fill in stuff. Just encouragement not being placed in the rack.
This is a fair topic about courtesy and manners, as the majority of responses from the longer term members on here have maintained.